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How to Foster Positive Mental Health in Young Children

By Victoria Smith

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If you talk to most adults who’ve gone through therapy, they’ll tell you that a lot of therapy sessions are focused on what happened during their childhood years. The childhood years are the formulaic foundation for the rest of a person’s life. While you can’t control their actions and decisions, you can provide a good foundation in their childhood years. Consider some of the best ways to foster positive mental health in your young children.

1. Prioritize Adequate Rest, Nutrition, and Natural Light

The H.A.L.T. method is an acronym that helps people monitor their mental and physical health. If you’re hungry, angry, lonely, or tired (H.A.L.T.), you’re more likely to make poor decisions. Especially when children are young, they’re learning how to manage their emotions. This is one of the reasons why the timeframe that’s known as the “Terrible Twos” can be so tough. However, it’s important to teach your children to communicate their needs. Sometimes, a child is having a tantrum because they’re lonely and feel like they haven’t gotten enough quality time with you. If you’re spending hours at the computer, schedule more breaks to read a book with your child, take a walk, or do a different activity that they love.

2. Create a Safe Space for Open, Honest Communication

From a young age, children quickly learn the importance of protecting the feelings of others. They learn how to hide their emotions in order to avoid hurting someone else. While they may not have mastered filtered responses the way adults do, don’t be surprised by how much children can keep to themselves in order to protect the feelings of others. While it’s good to be thoughtful, you do want your children to be honest and open about their feelings. Foster a good sense of communication with each other. If you want your children to be open and honest with you, you also have to make sure you’re non-judgemental. If your children feel as though they’ll be punished if they’re open and honest, they’re less likely to do it.

3. Learn More About Various Disorders

Educate yourself on the various ways different mental health disorders can develop. It’s also important to pay attention to the signs of a developing illness. It’s possible for children to be depressed or anxious. It’s important to recognize it as it develops because it’s often viewed as a child being disagreeable or disobedient. Many mental health professionals like Dr. Ramani Durvasula continue to relentlessly fight against the raging epidemic of narcissism. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is severely underdiagnosed because many people don’t realize the severity of it. However, a narcissistic personality disorder is actually developed in childhood years. By providing a healthy emotional foundation, you may be able help your child avoid the snares of a disorder or a mental breakdown in the future.

4. Prioritize Your Own Mental Health Routine

Your children can learn so much from you. What they see you do, they’ll naturally emulate. If they see you taking time to prioritize self-care, therapy sessions, and a thoughtful way of living, know that it will impact their lives as well. As their parent, you are your children’s greatest teacher. Lead by example. By prioritizing your own mental health, you’ll teach your children to do the same. Whether they recognize it as children or as adults, your habits will influence their future habits.

While these tips can be incredibly effective in creating a beautiful experience for young children, be mindful that there will be times when you make mistakes. If you make a mistake, you can learn from it and try to do better. By utilizing these tips and strategies to provide and foster a healthy space for mental wellness, you’re doing your part to make sure your children can soar as individuals in the world.

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Productive Personality Development Activities You Can Do With Your Child This Summer.

By Samidha Raj

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Summer is a great time to plan new activities with your children. With schools off, children have plenty of time for fun and learning activities that you can do together. You can choose from a plethora of activities that are fun for the whole family. Summer can also be a great time to engage in productive activities for a child’s personality development. Such activities are crucial to develop your child’s confidence, communication skills, and most importantly, to help parents understand their child’s dominant personality traits.

Personality development activities are great for parents and children to know each other better and bond with one another. This bonding can be essential for raising your child better while engaging your child in productive activities that don’t rely on technology. So go ahead and try the activities listed below to develop your child’s social and personality skills over the summer break – 

Get Artsy

Art is a beautiful form of expression that brings out the creativity in children. Asking your child to draw something that gives them joy or something they fear can give you insights into their creativity. Art is also an excellent way to stimulate your child’s imagination. Children who speak less find it easier to express their thoughts through art, and in turn, it can help you understand your child better. Art is a crucial part of personality development for children.

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Reading Books

It may sound simple, but reading with your child from a young age can contribute significantly to your child’s personality development. Reading at bedtime can be a routine activity, but you can find more time to read with children in the summers. Experiment with new kinds of books that your child has never read before. New books can give your child food for thought and enhance their thinking. Introduce new concepts through storybooks and discuss them with your child. Reading for kids helps them develop a reading habit for life, builds vocabulary, and improves communication skills.

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Prepare Your Child For the Stage

Play pretend with your child as they are the star of the show on a stage, while you and the other family members are the audiences. Give your child a mic to play with or to sing into. A lot of children get stage fright just because they have never seen a mic before. Such activities will help your children overcome stage fright and encourage them to participate in school-stage activities.

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Educational Games

Find new games that are not only fun but also help your child learn in the process. There are many games such as puzzles, quiz games, and word games like scrabble that the whole family can play together. Such games help in stimulating your child’s thinking and enhance their problem-solving abilities. If your child needs more practice in a particular subject, pick games that allow children to practice skills in that area, such as math games or science experiments. 

Journaling

Maintaining a journal is an excellent habit for everyone to sort their thoughts and introspect. Start this habit early by encouraging your child to write a journal describing their day. Encourage them to write about anything new that they did or anything memorable. Journaling can help your child express thoughts that they are unable to say aloud and develop their writing skills. Writing a diary can also be an excellent way for children to unwind at the end of the day.

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Personality development for children is not a goal that can be attained overnight. Parents need to make continuous efforts throughout the child’s schooling years to help them attain the skills they need to become responsible adults. Summer is a great time to focus on other aspects of your child’s learning that are not taught in a classroom. Whatever activity you choose, think about how it can be productive and fun for your children.

Every child is different, and you may need to come up with new ideas that suit your child’s interests. Make sure to try some of the activities listed above and see the results.

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Organic and Non-Toxic Diapers and Nappies: Finding the Best for Your Baby

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By Rachel Hudson

Many manufacturers now claim to make non-toxic, organic diapers for the baby. However, some brands don’t always provide clear information. So what actually is an organic and non-toxic diaper and nappy, and how do you buy the right product for your baby?

The Best Organic and Non-Toxic Diapers for Your Baby

Of course the well-being of your baby is a priority! So you may have decided to avoid any toxic diaper or nappy brand. Plus, if you are concerned about our environment, so you may want to consider eco-friendly diapers made from organic materials.

But finding a diaper or nappy that is both organic and non-toxic can be an uphill task until you understand what “non-toxic” and “organic” strictly mean.

So, let’s dig in to find out what an organic and non toxic diaper or nappy really is.

An organic diaper or nappy for a baby is made from plant-based (read: natural), eco-friendly materials such as bamboo fibers. Bamboo is mostly preferred for diapers because it is strong, silky, absorbent, and sustainable.

Its fibers are also soft hypoallergenic, suiting it for sensitive skin. Bamboo is a fast-growing tree that needs no chemicals to thrive, so it is eco-friendly all the way. When a bamboo diaper or nappy is disposed of, it wholly biodegrades without polluting the soil.

That is what is expected of all organic products. Not all organic diapers or nappies are 100% biodegradable, but they are better than an average disposable diaper or nappy that can sit in a landfill for over 500 years. During these 500 years, the diaper releases toxic gasses, one of which is methane. These end up in our drinking water.

Organic diapers and nappies usually carry no chemicals that may harm your baby’s sensitive skin. But watch out: it is possible to find a diaper or nappy made primarily from organic, harmless materials still having harmful chemicals hidden in the dyes, inks, and adhesives used.

What Are The Best Organic Diapers and Nappies?

The best organic diaper or nappy for the baby should not contain more than 85% of certain chemicals and substances. If you want a diaper or nappy that is 100% eco-friendly, ensure it has none of these:

·         Chlorine

·         Latex

·         Fragrance

·         Lotion

·         Phthalate

·         Paraben

·         Dye

·         Tributyltin (TBT)

A material like latex can trigger allergic reactions in some babies with susceptible skins. Fragrance and lotion can cause asthma and hormonal complications. Chlorine, used to clean or bleach the nappies, is known to irritate the baby’s skin. You should avoid any organic diaper or nappy for a baby that is composed of any of these if you want a genuinely organic diaper or nappy.

A real organic diaper or nappy can be expensive, but it carries with it lots of benefits for your baby and the environment. Plus, they come in different designs and many parents love collecting different styles and patterns for their eco friendly babies. There is even a choice of the best swim diaper that your baby can wear while in water.

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Which Are The Biodegradable Diapers and Nappies You Can Use?

The following are the top biodegradable nappies you can use if you want to show your love for the environment:

    Compostable Diapers and Nappies

A compostable nappy breaks down fast; hence it is highly biodegradable. You use it once, and then have it composted.

    Reusable Cloth Diapers and Nappies

These are the diapers and nappies you can use and reuse, thus delaying their time in the landfill. It would be best if you used reusable nappies when you are at home.

They consume a lot of water to clean, but they are eco-friendly when you finally dump them after long service life.

   Eco-Friendly Disposable Diapers and Nappies

These are disposable yet eco-friendly nappies or diapers made from organic materials.

  Non-Toxic Diapers and Nappies

Non-toxic diapers and nappies are free of harmful chemicals, as we have seen. Your baby’s skin is tender and thin, so toxic chemicals can easily and quickly filter through. These chemicals can interfere with their physical and mental development, depending on the severity.

A chemical such as Phthalate has been shown to cause not just asthma but can also alter your baby’s physical development.

What Is the Best Diaper or Nappy Rash Treatment?

The best diaper rash treatment is baby powder. However, you can also use a cream with petroleum jelly or zinc oxide. Always rub it on the baby’s dry bottom before you put on a clean nappy.

At the same time, ensure you choose certified organic diapers for diaper rash prevention so that your baby doesn’t suffer from diaper or nappy rash. At the same time, it helps to learn how to treat a diaper or nappy rash naturally.

If you’re thinking about making the switch don’t feel overwhelmed, start small and remember that every little bit counts! Research before deciding which diaper or nappy is genuinely non-toxic and organic. Some companies throw in misleading labels such as “natural” and “non-toxic” even on diapers that are not. In this age of online customer reviews, you should go through what customers say about a particular organic nappy for a baby before committing yourself to it.

You can also check for third-party certifications by independent consumer or environmental organizations. Stick to the organic nappy brands that have been approved as genuinely organic and non-toxic by the experts, not the manufacturers.

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What are your thoughts on organic and non-toxic diapers? Are there genuinely non-toxic diapers in the market?

Author’s Bio: Rachel Hudson is a freelance content writer who writes extensively about lifestyle and parenting. Some time back, Rachel worked as a certified marriage counselor and fitness trainer. She is also the author of various health and scientific papers.

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Are Professional Photos worth it?

Photography has come so far since we were children. The photos of my childhood are not few, but they are limited and curated in a way the photos of my own children are not. My parents might have taken shots when we were at the beach, or on Christmas day, or in the bath, just as I do now. Except I can take dozens and immediately view them and chose the best, or not and keep them all – too lazy to cull and too enamoured to delete. The cloud stores millions of photos of children, documenting their every move and every milestone.

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Yet, despite the ability to photograph our children ourselves with ever improving cameras in phones and at our fingertips, professional photography of babies and children is a booming business. A once virtually unheard of market, the newborn photo shoot is now almost ubiquitous. Parents can choose from a myriad of photographers and pay anywhere from a few hundred to several thousands of dollars to create and capture some newborn twee on film (Or not, as it were. In fact, the change from film to digital is partly responsible for the newborn shoot’s rise in popularity; now that photos of otherwise wrinkled and smudged babies fresh from birth can be smoothed and beautified on screen.).

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But is it worth it? For my first child I thought: no. For my second I decided I may as well (jealous spats in the future as one has photos in a nest and the other does not?). Obviously, I saved a lot of money the first time. But now I do have some special photos of my second baby (and the first as a toddler) that will be treasured, always. Of course, you can try and take some photos at home, and there are plenty of tips on how to get the best out of your child and save your money. But, there is clearly more to it than simply plonking your baby on a rug and snapping away.

Take a look at these newborn shoot ‘fails’ and try not to laugh out loud, I dare you!


A professional photographer should have skills you don’t, in the art of photography, in the knack of posing and settling babies, and in the tricks of editing. It’s tough wading through all the options and knowing who is best, so try and ask around and trust word of mouth and recommendations. Look at their portfolio and make sure the style suits you. Ask about their prices and have a clear budget set. Don’t be afraid to turn down an option that costs too much. There are plenty of photographers out there and there is bound to be one that fits your style and budget.

And if you decide to skip the professional photo shoot and do it yourself, please laugh out loud if it all goes wrong. The photos of us as babies likely weren’t styled, or edited, or planned, and we all turned out fine!

Share your newborn photo shoot story with us in the comments!

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Social Media and your children’s photos

Do you put photos of your child on social media?

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Someone close to me said they were not going to put photos of their newborn child on social media, for safety. But this isn’t what happened. Photos of child are on social media all the time, as are photos of mine.

There are disturbing stories about children’s photos being shared without permission, sold or used for profit, and being collected by those who would do them harm. Yet more and more parents are sharing photos of their children on their personal and public social media.

There are concerns for the child’s privacy and right to consent. Concerns about the focus on image for children’s self esteem, and for the way these photos can be shared, and who owns them.

But there is a desire to connect with other parents, with friends and family who may not see the children any other way. And there is a normalising of the personal being made public. This normalisation may not be a problem for those raised and becoming adults in that climate as much as it seem to those from a more private period in history. But we also cannot know what the children growing up on camera now will think when they are the grown ups.

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So what can we do?

How do we balance sharing photos and maintaining privacy? How to we make use of social media to connect with others through our children’s stories while still protecting our loved ones from being exposed in dangerous ways?

Personally I have a few ways I try to contain my children’s images on the internet.

No nude photos. Ever. Same goes for anything I’d consider “private.” That means no sharing photos on the toilet, even though I have some really funny ones with a toddler and their gumboots. If my children choose to share naked photos of themselves that should be their business.

The vast majority of photos of my children are shared in private invite only groups, open only to my family and real life friends. Some photos are shared to my wider online friend community and a minimal amount are shared to my public social media. Sharing photos is mostly, for me, a modern way of sharing a slide show with friends or passing around snaps at a family gathering.

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This mentality keeps my children’s images on the free internet to a minimum. And the photos that are there show them always fully clothed and are not embarrassing or private.

Do you put photos of your child on social media?

If you do, have you have any rules for yourself?

If you don’t, how do you share photos with those who wish to see them?

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